tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post8475689836022980604..comments2023-11-12T20:59:55.490-05:00Comments on Building a Jewish Life: In Defense of the Conversion Candidate in a RelationshipKochavahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11841373131402987905noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-55681963633898821342012-10-30T07:35:16.282-04:002012-10-30T07:35:16.282-04:00People constantly assume I must have converted for...People constantly assume I must have converted for my husband and are shocked to learn I was in the process before I met him. I think this is sad. I think one of the major reasons is that many Jews, even Orthodox Jews, believe that marriage is not a crazy reason whereas if you're single and converting...then you must be crazy. They also can't distinguish as has been done on this blog thatAliza Hausmanhttp://www.alizahausman.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-22347494846108583962012-10-30T07:32:56.481-04:002012-10-30T07:32:56.481-04:00A very good post. A very good post. Aliza Hausmanhttp://www.alizahausman.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-16878552604306118862012-08-08T13:18:01.378-04:002012-08-08T13:18:01.378-04:00Thank you, I grew up Jewish (no Jewish parents at ...Thank you, I grew up Jewish (no Jewish parents at all though), but I was mostly raised by Jews. That happens when you are the one Gentile family in the neighbourhood.<br /><br />I dated several Jews, but I wanted to convert anyway. The rabbis didn't want to touch me with a 10 foot pole because I was dating a Jew at the time. Funny, almost two decades later, now they (Reform) are Melhttp://melsmarsh.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-57685650970124737852012-07-26T06:44:33.170-04:002012-07-26T06:44:33.170-04:00Don't worry about people like this. Usually t...Don't worry about people like this. Usually they have nothing better to talk about. I had the opposite experience. Nine months before our conversion finished, we came to a big city to officially start the process after some experience in a smaller community. This certain group of people at a local synagogue near my own would also ask my wife and me, "Who's Jewish?" When we Jerry Rnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-59226700548326460472012-07-25T02:59:30.005-04:002012-07-25T02:59:30.005-04:00Glad you are backGlad you are backG-Girl!https://www.blogger.com/profile/02342636309731336318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-16142852274588847412012-07-13T14:04:44.962-04:002012-07-13T14:04:44.962-04:00"Just not halachically" - Halacha is kin..."Just not halachically" - Halacha is kind of key here, no?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-12266434881658640602012-07-13T11:44:27.957-04:002012-07-13T11:44:27.957-04:00Thank you so much for this post! I'm so tired ...Thank you so much for this post! I'm so tired of people asking me if I converted for my boyfriend. I usually have to explain that I was more attracted to him BECAUSE he's Jewish and in fact started the conversion process a year before we met each other. I had been exposed to Judaism by relatives (one grandparent, a few cousins) and was attracted to my boyfriend because of our common EPRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15588221904941479593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-87439649303316073062012-07-12T18:02:08.324-04:002012-07-12T18:02:08.324-04:00When my husband and I were newer to the community ...When my husband and I were newer to the community (and program) and were meeting/getting to know more people the constant question was "so which one of you is already Jewish???" People were always shocked that we are both converting, that we both have been drawn more and more towards Judaism throughout our lives and that that interest was what brought us together in the first place.<br Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02278517553070215031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-82898085753739835692012-07-12T15:15:27.168-04:002012-07-12T15:15:27.168-04:00Thanks. Like Bethany, I grew up Jewish. I was born...Thanks. Like Bethany, I grew up Jewish. I was born to a Jewish father, as was my mother (yup, 3 Jewish grandparents). By the time I met my husband, I had two Jewish parents, because my mom had an Orthodox conversion after I finished college. Oh and my husband and in-laws (we were legally married before my conversion) thought the whole conversion thing was silly. So any suggestion of converting yupnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-8342852815303320692012-07-12T13:09:36.142-04:002012-07-12T13:09:36.142-04:00Such an awesome piece. When I try to write about t...Such an awesome piece. When I try to write about this stuff from my own life, it just sounds fuzzy and squishy... "It’s not your responsibility to question their decisions or how they got to where they are today." Yes, yes yes! @DEHausfrauDEHausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07755196901431557053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-83051534137790165742012-07-12T12:23:48.014-04:002012-07-12T12:23:48.014-04:00Thank you for this. I did not convert for Seth. I&...Thank you for this. I did not convert for Seth. I'm *so* tired of people assuming I did. <br /><br />I grew up Jewish. My father was Jewish. The only family I have a relationship with are Jewish. I was Jewish, just not halachically. I set out to marry a frum guy, I just met him before a dunk that in my mind was 100% symbolic.Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14375431332942195656noreply@blogger.com