tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post1901741750778469804..comments2023-11-12T20:59:55.490-05:00Comments on Building a Jewish Life: Word of the Day: BentchophobiaKochavahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11841373131402987905noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-22323853220240094682015-02-25T00:06:23.128-05:002015-02-25T00:06:23.128-05:00B"H
There''s a cool transliterated Si...B"H<br />There''s a cool transliterated Siddur that includes bentching - with optional audio for the siddur and bentching here:http://www.toolsfortorah.com/ <br />B"H thousands of beginners of all ages have benefited from the transliterated Siddur and audio - and - a standalone bentcher is in the making - and G-d willing should be available within about 2 weeks.Chayim B. Alevskyhttp://www.toolsfortorah.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-3002423143600678382012-12-18T05:17:53.544-05:002012-12-18T05:17:53.544-05:00I really learned how to bentch by singing it after...I really learned how to bentch by singing it after Shabbos dinner at Chabad in college almost every Shabbos. The first month or two, it was hard to know what the heck was going on, but now I know pretty much the whole thing and can sing along or say it to myself with relative ease. I haven't totally memorized it, but a bentcher that's either in Hebrew or transliterated is usually enough Diplogeekhttp://www.diplogeek.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-5589396043822181082012-01-23T12:02:21.737-05:002012-01-23T12:02:21.737-05:00When I was new at Hebrew and slower, I bentched in...When I was new at Hebrew and slower, I bentched in English. I still do this for some of the infrequent additions to bentching. The rest of it I have memorized like any other Jew, and while it still takes me a teeny bit longer than most to bentch, it's not a considerable amount longer. <br /><br />I still avoid bread at times when I don't have much time, like at work on fast-paced days.Jadenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-72187781680925952272012-01-15T18:26:57.072-05:002012-01-15T18:26:57.072-05:00I really think people just need to learn birkat ha...I really think people just need to learn birkat hamazon, and accept the fact that it will take a while. But in the interest of showing there is more than one answer to a question, I'll pass along this link from <a href="http://kashrut.org/grace/" rel="nofollow">Kashrut.org</a> (not to be confused with Kashrut.com) and another from <a href="http://www.koshertorah.com/PDF/Larry Lennhoffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06578073969473815180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-68291891581431528252012-01-12T12:47:31.300-05:002012-01-12T12:47:31.300-05:00I've suffered from "bentchophobia" (...I've suffered from "bentchophobia" (which is a GREAT word for it, btw) and am only just beginning to recover.<br /><br />You're having a nice meal with people you just met at their lovely home on Shabbos. You feel like you fit right in and the food is tasty and the conversation lively. Then, you can almost hear the Jaws theme begin as the host announces that it's time to Redactedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472100109027120712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-1364977039613325342012-01-12T12:21:49.803-05:002012-01-12T12:21:49.803-05:00This post explains why I insisted on having Englis...This post explains why I insisted on having English *and* transliteration in our wedding benchers. There are people in every community -- and that includes people who were born Jewish -- who are not comfortable with Hebrew or with Birkat Hamazon. I want our guests to have access, not to feel awkward. To me, this is part of being a good host.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06713194747315482988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-16559534089396608562012-01-12T03:44:30.514-05:002012-01-12T03:44:30.514-05:00You can get siddur audio from iTunes also. If you...You can get siddur audio from iTunes also. If you search for 'Cantor' you can find almost any prayer you need to learn by some famous cantor - also the weekly Torah portions if you like to hear them pre-shabbos. I like to listen to them in the week ahead so I feel more connected in shul. <br /><br />I really don't think I could be doing the BT thing without my iPhone...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-89882630346097480152012-01-11T22:29:41.658-05:002012-01-11T22:29:41.658-05:00Check www.sidduraudio.com, under "miscellaneo...Check www.sidduraudio.com, under "miscellaneous & shabbat home prayers. The audio clips are free. Gavriella.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-79025052177867481682012-01-11T18:35:46.425-05:002012-01-11T18:35:46.425-05:00Funny, I swore I linked to the post that explains ...Funny, I swore I linked to the post that explains the term bentch. I blame the cold medicine...because I KNOW I actually opened the post to link to it. I've added it above.<br /><br />As for singing, if no one else is singing, the singing slows you down tremendously (and ending so long after everyone else is the main cause of bentchophobia). I usually sing the first couple of paragraphs just CrazyJewishConverthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06219720130466040423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-87063614308595682982012-01-11T18:07:47.673-05:002012-01-11T18:07:47.673-05:00Curmudgeonly is right. We sing birkat hamazon alm...Curmudgeonly is right. We sing birkat hamazon almost every time we have guests. As long as even one may need a little help - we sing. Many of us learned birkat hamazon at camp or youth movement activities as youngsters by singing it. Those from not-tradtional homes often only encountered birkat hamazon at such activities.<br /><br />My wife to this day has a favorite birkon ('bentcher'Mordechai Y. Scherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06774262478551329181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-45359745442900253212012-01-11T17:31:37.390-05:002012-01-11T17:31:37.390-05:00Yep, it takes me a REALLY long time to finish benc...Yep, it takes me a REALLY long time to finish benching! Fortunately, our hosts have always had a transliterated copy. Since it's always been on Shabbat I haven't had the option of skipping the bread.Kathleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-80635997063298898402012-01-11T17:25:03.577-05:002012-01-11T17:25:03.577-05:00You may find this interesting. Although the link c...You may find this interesting. Although the link characterizes the "mezonos roll" primarily as an attempt to avoid netilas yadaim, I bet bentchophobia also had something to do with its popularity. http://www.oukosher.org/index.php/common/article/the_mezonos_roll_is_it_a_piece_of_cake_by_rabbi_yaakov_luban/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-90348576165424820322012-01-11T17:05:54.632-05:002012-01-11T17:05:54.632-05:00I used to have a tape of the benching--that'll...I used to have a tape of the benching--that'll give you an idea how long ago it was. You can learn it more easily if you learn to sing it, just like the kids do.--Curmudgeonly Israeli GiyoretAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-41683197528908331692012-01-11T13:18:29.835-05:002012-01-11T13:18:29.835-05:00I totally have this phobia - everyone thinks I am ...I totally have this phobia - everyone thinks I am just low-carb.Annanoreply@blogger.com