tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post6040104976453103455..comments2023-11-12T20:59:55.490-05:00Comments on Building a Jewish Life: The Non-FFB Inferiority ComplexKochavahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11841373131402987905noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-70075817482110226122013-01-20T13:38:22.265-05:002013-01-20T13:38:22.265-05:00Pronunciation wasn't usually my problem, since...Pronunciation wasn't usually my problem, since I had a little Hebrew under my belt by the time I started becoming observant- but behavior was a huge source of anxiety about "doing it wrong" for me. And now, after 6 years of rabbinical school and Lots of Jewish experience, it's better- but it still crops up sometimes. <br /><br />But I have to think that everyone gets it Maya Resnikoffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00251303621825787312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-14926052641364402732012-12-19T08:40:48.382-05:002012-12-19T08:40:48.382-05:00You say, "I am too embarrassed to say the ble...You say, "I am too embarrassed to say the blessing loud enough for my own husband to hear. In fact, I don't let anyone listen to me say anything in Hebrew. I mumble very quietly. I'm self conscious. Go figure. I feel like a five year old. A five year old DOIN IT RONG."<br /><br />Do it once at loud, get corrected if necessary, and - poof - your problem is gone. <br /><br />As in the vanguardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11796434751654291581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-16173240885276093452012-12-18T14:46:27.219-05:002012-12-18T14:46:27.219-05:00If I could have a dollar for every time I misprono...If I could have a dollar for every time I mispronounced a Hebrew word, I'd be rich. Just keep working at it, and try not to worry too much about how you sound to others.<br /><br />Welcome back to the J-blogosphere!Shira Salamonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989302669175887512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-31902290705269971602012-12-17T22:16:23.966-05:002012-12-17T22:16:23.966-05:00You have been eavesdropping in on my conversations...You have been eavesdropping in on my conversations with my rabbis haven't you?<br /><br />I'm going to have a complex by the time this bar mitzvah occurs.Melhttp://www.melsmarsh.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-16353095675311292282012-12-17T18:53:16.749-05:002012-12-17T18:53:16.749-05:00My complex is definitely that I never learned to r...My complex is definitely that I never learned to read Hebrew. For awhile, I was able to compensate by memorizing the common and/or important brachot (including netilat yadayim!) and learning the tunes and general sounds of the songs in shul. But, I realized that although it is important to be able to participate as part of the community, but actually understanding what I'm saying would also Miriam Chavanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-3154919514325154542012-12-17T18:19:02.033-05:002012-12-17T18:19:02.033-05:00I hate singing along, partly because I am self con...I hate singing along, partly because I am self conscious about singing in public at all. This is going away slowly- I'm studying to be a teacher of young'uns, and not singing is not an option (also they don't judge singing ability. They just think it's awesome that a grown up is singing Old McDonald with them). <br /><br />After having heard enough born Jews butcher Hebrew (Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-78798357208735478022012-12-17T14:23:37.757-05:002012-12-17T14:23:37.757-05:00Seconded. The worst thing about singing in shul, f...Seconded. The worst thing about singing in shul, for me, is that I have a deep, loud voice, can't sing and we often have women (including the rabbi, who can sing) leading the service, so I feel like a cantor (Reform shuls don't have them here). It wouldn't be so bad if I COULD sing, but it's so bad I'm actually considering singing lessons (not just for that reason). Whether Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11145089993778979583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-9884778527074999732012-12-17T14:18:36.131-05:002012-12-17T14:18:36.131-05:00If you pronounce a different syllable in adVERTise...If you pronounce a different syllable in adVERTisement than the British, then you ARE doing it wrong ;-)Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11145089993778979583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-9848389409810002492012-12-17T14:17:13.354-05:002012-12-17T14:17:13.354-05:00I think guys have to get over that particular one ...I think guys have to get over that particular one much faster. My BF says kiddush+havdala for us almost every week+while he still stumbles here and there (usually cuz he's trying to say it all fast+nonchalant like the FFBs do), he's always done an amazing job for such a newbie! I'm so proud of him (does it show? :P) rgoldstandhttp://www.twitter.com/rgoldstandnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-35230589740356352422012-12-17T12:57:38.358-05:002012-12-17T12:57:38.358-05:00A lot of FFBs don't really know Hebrew well at...A lot of FFBs don't really know Hebrew well at all, but they make it sound OK - even when they have no idea what they're saying and are often saying the wrong consonants, etc. And they certainly don't know halacha, I have seen them accidentally be mechalel Shabbos many times.<br /><br />This is not meant to criticize them, but to make others who worry about "doin it wrong" Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-13544048949924073212012-12-17T12:19:29.964-05:002012-12-17T12:19:29.964-05:00I still feel like I know no words in Hebrew songs ...I still feel like I know no words in Hebrew songs because they go too fast. My words are probably about as good as singing along with lyrics on the radio! And my reading is too slow to read the words as they sing them. Thankfully, I found it incredibly easy to fake sing in Hebrew. And all the tunes are easy to fake along because there's a lot of variations on a few basic tunes. That's oneKochavahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11841373131402987905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-7088455664706236532012-12-17T12:17:07.732-05:002012-12-17T12:17:07.732-05:00LOL...a certain rabbi we both know did the same to...LOL...a certain rabbi we both know did the same to me about the syllable. I figured it was pronounced with the emphasis on the last syllable like normal. I got corrected the first time I met him (nicely, of course), but it gave me the complex too. When I told Simcha, he freaked out, and said that neither pronunciation is wrong! He says that IS the Israeli pronunciation and that it's like the Kochavahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11841373131402987905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-76561293007847076162012-12-17T12:13:02.534-05:002012-12-17T12:13:02.534-05:00As a future convert I always feel embarrassed sing...As a future convert I always feel embarrassed singing in Hebrew at our reform Synagogue. i don't want to throw others off. Thanks nice to know we aren't the only ones.<br /> Keep blogging great information and helpful. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5292734369805726323.post-12153045906686012122012-12-17T11:56:35.212-05:002012-12-17T11:56:35.212-05:00My husband made me feel like I was doing handwashi...My husband made me feel like I was doing handwashing wrong...I put the emphasis on the wrong syllable for Netilas yadayim and so now I usually do that one quietly (although he apologized for giving me a complex and I'm getting over it...)Jadenoreply@blogger.com